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The do’s and don’ts of living with empathy, compassion, and integrity
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A car driver throws his booger at me
I’ve just been to the dentist. I feel tired. The procedure was more complicated than anticipated. I spent two and a half hours in the dentist chair with my jaw jammed open. Not very pleasant. So I feel happy to leave and bike home, an eight mile ride. I love biking. I...
My dentist inspires me to transform my enemy image
I am at my dentist. I like her. She has an effervescent energy, a big smile, and bouncing red curls, and she explains what she’s gonna do. And, I get a heated cherry pit pillow in my neck and a bright pink blanket over my legs, every time I’m in the chair. This time...
Walking my dogs and my anxiety, and becoming emotionally liberated
I walk my friend's dogs Luna and Sol, my pack for the last ten months. I still have anxiety walking them. Whether it’s around the block or in the park: I feel stress. I believe it is my job as the pack leader to be "calm-assertive", so they can trust that I will take...
Understanding My Dog’s Tragic Expression of Unmet Needs
You remember the two dogs I wrote about a week ago? Luna and Sol? Well, Sol is not the only one triggering anxiety. Luna does too. Usually, she is a sweetie. Super mellow, listens to me, doesn't disappear in the fields. So this morning when we get at the dog park, I...
My dog runs away with my self-worth
I’m babysitting my friend's dogs. I find them super sweet: when I wake up in the morning, they greet me with excitement, puppy ears up, tail wagging, head a bit slanting. I can hear them asking: “Are we gonna play? Are we gonna play?”. When we go to the dog park ......
Self-compassion and cockroaches
Cockroaches and Self-Compassion My husband and I cherish our vegan household. We don’t eat animal products, we don’t buy leather shoes, we don’t spread poison to kill bugs. As a result, we have our occasional cockroach visitor. Since we don’t want to kill or harm...
Authenticity and Courage
I am redesigning my website. I want it to look professional, authentic, and inspiring. A colleague asks me what authentic means to me. Me at my most vulnerable, me at my best, me at my worst? Haha…! Funny question! Is it? … Maybe not so much. Authentic is not just me...
Holding unmet needs with compassion
Six wasps are actively building a nest for their queen mama above the door to my room. And I know from last year that these nests can become big. Really big. Lots of wasps coming in and out, feeding their babies. Even though I don't experience them as aggressive...
Walking mindfully, walking peacefully
Walking Mindfully, Walking Happily It's March 2017, SXSW week in Austin. A week bustling with thousands of participants trying to get to their coffee, their meetups, their conferences, screenings, and social gatherings in time. It's also the week of the premiere of...
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Leadership Coaching
Explorations into the Being and Doing of Coaching
17 Chapters written by 17 wonderful coaches. One of them is me.
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Free Webinar “Effective Communication”
What is Nonviolent Communication?
Making Irresistible Requests
These Are Not Feelings
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