Group Coaching
A 3-month program for students of wonderOnline group coaching: living in integrity
Discover how to overcome inner obstacles and respond constructively to the challenges of life (even if you tried all kinds of groups before, read every book on personal development, and are starting to feel discouraged).
Do you ever doubt…
- Whether you will ever feel that you did enough?
- If you are the only one who fails at their aspirations?
- That it’s okay to slouch on the couch with a glass of wine instead of taking action?
- If there are others who feel overwhelmed with racial injustice, environmental degradation, poverty, and mass incarceration?
- That you are ever gonna make a difference?
Prevent what happened to Kimberley
Kimberly meets Melissa in a practice meeting with her mindfulness community. She feels moved by Melissa’s ferocious efforts to build a life for herself, despite her mental health challenges.
Kimberly invites Melissa for lunch, takes her shopping, and does what she can to contribute to Melissa’s sense of self-worth, acceptance, and belonging.
Three months into their budding friendship, Kimberly gets a call from Melissa. Melissa is enraged that she hadn’t responded to her calls and texts. She calls Kimberly an imposter and a fraud who doesn’t really care about her.
Shocked, Kimberly listens, unable to speak. After 10 minutes of name-calling, Melissa hangs up, leaving Melissa confused, sad, and ashamed.
Melissa never attends the mindfulness community again. Melissa calls her eight times, then gives up.
Her mindfulness community helps her to understand what happened, accept her own role, and find meaning in this experience.
Recognize this?
You probably have experienced your own challenges in relationships. Maybe with your partner, child, team, or CEO. The most difficult relationship can even be with ourselves!
We have to balance our own needs with the needs of others, discern when we need to act immediately and when we can wait, and accept our limitations without self-criticism.
Without getting stuck in shame, guilt, or exhaustion.
So how do you do that?
A supportive community helps. One that is committed to living with integrity, mindfulness, and compassion. With people who don’t give advice, but listen with empathy. A group that encourages you when you struggle and celebrates your failures as opportunities to grow into who you want to be.
The PLEDJ group offers that. As a result, your actions will nourish your sense of Peace, Love, Equanimity, Delight, and Joy.
I felt supported when Elly named what I was feeling and helped me examine some of the thoughts that were underneath that feeling, to keep it from being too vague or difficult to handle.
And Elly offered compassion for it and helped me offer compassion to myself for it. It’s been a wonderful experience.
Elly role models the way to be present to other people. To listen to someone else deeply about what is going on in their life. To hear beyond the words and just be present.
So it not only helped me, but it helped me think about how I wanted to be with other people.
What integrity has to do with relationships
Integrity encompasses authenticity, creativity, meaning, and self-worth. And sometimes, it seems as if we have to choose between our relationships and our integrity.
We are afraid to ask our friends to include vegan options in the dinner party because we don’t want to be seen as difficult. Or we are so focused on fulfilling our sense of meaning that we don’t make time for our family. Or we compare ourselves to our sister who has it all, triggering thoughts we are a failure.
I don’t know about you, but when I compare myself, I can feel so discouraged that I make excuses for my failed aspirations. My childhood wasn’t harmonious, I stuttered and had social anxiety, I struggled with self-worth issues. You might have your own set of reasons.
My message?
It doesn’t matter.
No matter where we are in life, we can figure out how to live with integrity and have close relationships. To respect our own values and respect those of others.
We might never completely succeed in living our aspirations, but we can move closer. And that is good enough!
You need the following ingredients for living with integrity:
- A dedicated community to help you face your inner obstacles with compassion and inspire you to take risks even if it seems scary;
- A brave space to be honest and authentic;
- A willingness to acknowledge and celebrate your own basic goodness and the basic goodness of others;
- A good dose of humor to take your failings not too seriously;
- Some level of tenacity to try and try and try again till you figured out what works for you.
You get it: it takes more than just an intention to live in integrity. It takes a village.
That village is PLEDJ
We are students of wonder who look at ourselves with curiosity. We practice beginner’s mind to transform core beliefs with mindfulness, live life with gratitude, and nourish peace, love, equanimity, delight, and joy with our actions.
Is this for you?
This is for you if you are willing to reflect on yourself, go beyond your comfort zone, and are excited to practice radical love.
This is also for you if you can joyfully contribute $438 for the full program and can commit the time and energy.
This is not for you if the challenges in your life seem overwhelming. You might benefit more from working one-on-one with me or talking with a therapist or counselor.
I just love the grace she has given to people for being okay to fail and learn. Sharing and expressing the occurrences that are happening in our lives and feeling safe that it is confidential. And trying to use the tools in real-life situations is life-saving. It is so great, it has been lovely.
PLEDJ, a 3-month online program
In this loving community you’ll discover:
- How you can overcome self-criticism and nurture self-compassion, so your actions are informed by your values, not by your habit energy, guilt, or ‘shoulds’;
- Why failure applause helped Nicole to take bolder risks, fail forward, and celebrate her progress;
- How to ask for what you want with Santa Claus energy so that others feel excited to meet your needs;
- What helped Peter to accept his anger with his mom without guilt and reach out to her;
- How Pauline found the courage to practice scary honesty in the group, even though she was afraid of rejection.
What do you get when you join?
The online Pledj group consists of 6 modules:
1. Meaning
Your ‘Why’, five values, and five energizers
2. Learning
Failure applause, creative tension, and tiny habits
3. Feelings and Needs
Feelings and pseudo-feelings, the three levels of needs, Santa Claus energy
4. Emotional Liberation
The four horsemen, quality of the relationship, honesty & empathy
5. Self-Worth
Shame, self-compassion, and limiting beliefs
6. Autonomy
Interdependence, mourning & celebration, putting it all together
We start soon!
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And you also get:
1. Empathy buddies
You are paired with a different member of the group every other week to share your learning and listen with compassion;
2. Zoom meetings
Each session starts with an introduction to the theme, a dialogue about it, and empathy pairings. We meet on October 5, October 19, November 2, November 16, November 30, and December 14, 5:00-6:30 pm CST on Zoom.
3. A membership platform
To stay in touch with each other, keep track of your commitments, and other fun stuff;
I was so pleasantly surprised at how much progress I could make. I didn’t realize that I had not yet peaked in my ability to communicate with others. And that was really insightful.
The other thing that I really benefited from was understanding that while my intentions are good, the way that I present my intentions, was a barrier for me getting through to people. It was really beneficial to keep in mind some guiding questions when I’m working with difficult people.
I immediately felt like I could be 100 percent vulnerable, 100% honest with Elly. And that is very unique and powerful.
Standard
- 6 Bi-weekly 1 ½-hour Zoom meetings
- Membership Platform
- Empathy buddies every other week
- 3 Individual 1-hour coaching sessions
- Follow-up session 1 month after finishing the program
VIP
- 6 Bi-weekly 1 ½-hour Zoom meetings
- Membership Platform
- Empathy buddies every other week
- 3 Individual 1-hour coaching sessions
- Follow-up session 1 month after finishing the program
Awesome, this is exactly what I want!
100% Money Back Guarantee
You don’t like the program? You get all your money back (minus the sessions that you joined and the payment processing fee). I only want raving clients.
David, Elly’s husband, about Elly: Elly is like trying to bottle a thunderstorm or a walk in a meadow full of little flowers. There is so much richness you need to slow down to take it all in. There’s a little bit that’s unpredictable, there’s something surprising, and certainly something vulnerable and inspiring. She is a reminder to look at what is alive in my life.
