Transform Conflict into Collaboration
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The do’s and don’ts of living with empathy, compassion, and integrity
“Thanks!!! I enjoy reading all of them!!” Carol Jean L-Z, Austin, TX
“Oh wow, Elly! How many people have been in your shoes and decided to meet their needs for emotional and financial safety, instead of their needs for integrity????” Diane Emerson, Vashon, WA
My Mother’s Day Ode to aunt Ria
“Happy Mother’s Day! Thank you for all you do to help me as a mother, guide and support Maya and Kiran through life.” I feel touched. Even a bit teary. I’m grateful for her appreciation of my role in her children’s life and of my dedication to help them grow into...
Empathy in the supermarket
“Stop running around. Stay here.” An irritated look. Something like frustration, exasperation, helplessness. “Don’t touch that! No, we’re not getting candy.” The mom in front of me in line gets more and more agitated. I see a frown on her face, her lips tighten. I...
Connect to your basic goodness and quit smoking
Ten years ago I quit smoking. It is quite a feat. I was a heavy smoker. Like really heavy. Two packets a day. One in my hand, one in the ash tray. And yet it was super simple to give up. It started with my shit list. I was in an intensive personal transformation...
Difficulty choosing between alternatives? Use the priority grid.
I want to enter a ICF-coach certification program. To support my sense of integrity, trust, community, growth and learning. I look into all kinds of coaching certification programs: “Openness to feedback, capacity for self-examination, willingness to challenge one’s...
Celebrating our inner child
Have you ever met your inner child? I have. At the Mindfulness Retreat I attended with my Thich Nhat Hanh Sangha last weekend. I was enthralled by the workshop Gale and Curt organized for us. I valued the support for deep self-connection, the safety of our group, the...
We all want to blossom and bloom
Do you see my seedlings? Aren’t they adorable, little plants growing up? I am so happy with them. Every morning, as soon as I get up, I take a look at them. Very carefully. Did they sprout? Did they grow? Are they getting second leaves? I water them, measure them,...
Which three words do you want to be known for?
“Which three words do you want to be known for?” “Empathic. Compassionate. Committed.” “Tell me about committed. What does that mean to you?” “That I care about relationships. That I try to understand the needs in people’s behavior. That I never give up on...
Sitting as silent witness as my birthday celebration
“What did you do for your birthday?” “I sat as silent witness.” “What??” “I sat as silent witness at the steps of Texas State Capitol, as Adam Ward was executed at Huntsville Death House for killing a city inspector.” “That doesn’t sound like fun.” It wasn’t. I sobbed...
SXSW: Did I climb the ladder against the wrong wall?
Did I climb the ladder against the wrong wall? Did I get faster to a place I didn’t want to go? Am I being a manager instead of an effective leader? “Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things.” (Peter Drucker in: Covey, S. The 7 Habits of...
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Leadership Coaching
Explorations into the Being and Doing of Coaching
17 Chapters written by 17 wonderful coaches. One of them is me.
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Free Webinar “Effective Communication”
What is Nonviolent Communication?
Making Irresistible Requests
These Are Not Feelings
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