Balance purpose, relationships, and self-care

Empathy works. It always does.

Building a Life (3/3)

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My work aligns with my values of loving-speech and deep listening and supports my aspiration to see our interdependence.

When I look at my business as seeing our interdependence and contributing to empathy and compassion, my shyness about marketing my services melts away. I transform my thought that I am a beggar, grasping for clients, into a contributor who creates value and solves problems. I bring a service to the world. Without arrogance, without false humility. From a place of joy and pride that I found the sweet spot between what I love to do and what the world needs.

Building a business is ultimately also about creating a life. Not just about making a living. Creating your life and building your business become synonymous with finding the sweet spot between what you love to do and how you can add value. And then do that with all your heart.

“If it falls to your lot to be a street sweeper, sweep streets like Michelangelo painted pictures. Sweep streets like Beethoven composed music. (…) And sweep streets like Shakespeare wrote poetry. Sweep streets so well that all the hosts of Heaven and Earth will have to pause and say, “Here lived a great street sweeper who swept his job well.”” (Martin Luther King in: Cornel West, The Radical King, Speech delivered at Barratt Junior High School, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, October 26, 1967)

When I look at my business from the perspective of offering my services wholeheartedly, because they uplift humanity, I get super excited. I love listening to people and asking questions to deepen understanding and self-connection. I love helping people understand each other from a place of compassion and empathy. And I love facilitating dialog in group settings, certainly when there is conflict involved. Why? Because I value connection, I value harmony and I value understanding and support. I believe we are better off as a team, than as individual players, and we get more things done when we collaborate.


You want help to Build a Life? Contact me, 512-589-0482 for a free, discovery session.

Thank you, David Nayer, for role modeling the value of collaboration by editing this and many other posts with such delight.

Author: Elly van Laar

I am a coach. I specialize in helping professionals schedule time for relationships and self-care. I have a Master's degree in Political Science, Leiden University, the Netherlands. I love meditation, walking, gardening, biking, and hanging out with family and friends.

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