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The do’s and don’ts of living with empathy, compassion, and integrity
“Thanks!!! I enjoy reading all of them!!” Carol Jean L-Z, Austin, TX
“Oh wow, Elly! How many people have been in your shoes and decided to meet their needs for emotional and financial safety, instead of their needs for integrity????” Diane Emerson, Vashon, WA
Vic
Vic is the newbie on Seal Team Bravo, a character in a TV show I watch with my husband. Vic has had a challenging childhood, missing love, acceptance, safety, a sense of family. When Vic is accepted into Bravo Team, he experiences brotherhood for the first time in his...
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My foster daughter invites me to start an exercise discipline. We use the 7-Minutes app to do 13 exercises, each morning. We both do it at home and inspire each other to stick to the routine. I say ‘yes’ to support her in her ambitions for a fit, strong body. And I...
Man’s Search for Meaning
We are not determined by our conditions, by our conditioning, by our childhood. We determine ourselves by our search for meaning.
The squirrel and Superman
We don’t have a lot of songbirds here in Hyde Park, Austin. We have Carolina wren, American robin, mockingbird, northern cardinal. And occasionally a tufted titmouse. That’s about it. The rest are grackles, blue jays, doves. To attract more singing birds, I hang up a...
The professor is howling at the nurse
Every night at eight p.m. my neighbor across the street, a university professor, goes outside and howls. So does the real estate broker from his backyard, And the owner of a radio station three doors away. Even my neighbor, the nurse, goes outside to howl. And...
Bumping your head against the communication ceiling
A few months ago I did a little market research. I wanted to know: Who are my best clients? I could do this very scientifically. And I could do it quick and not-so-dirty. My favorite research method is: Follow the results. Which clients come back, year after year?...
Are you making these five mistakes when asking for what you want?
Last week I was in an online marketing training. One of the participants shared that she saw me peeing while on Zoom. Ouch. Of course I felt embarrassed about it. But that feeling passed pretty quickly, as there were only eight or nine participants on the call and I...
Peeing on Zoom
I am on a video call with my business marketing training group. The trainer presents his material. Above the main screen are the initials of the participants. I feel disappointed that I am the only one with a camera on. Seeing the faces of the others would bring me...
You don’t have a negativity bias, do you?
This pandemic triggers all kinds of feelings in me: anger, sadness, fear, panic, shame, guilt, and a lot of “shoulds” about how I should help more. These are feelings and thoughts that I am not such a fan of, especially when they come in huge quantities. I know from...
Books & Publications
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Leadership Coaching
Explorations into the Being and Doing of Coaching
17 Chapters written by 17 wonderful coaches. One of them is me.
For Clients
Free Webinar “Effective Communication”
What is Nonviolent Communication?
Making Irresistible Requests
These Are Not Feelings
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