Transform Conflict into Collaboration
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The do’s and don’ts of living with empathy, compassion, and integrity
“Thanks!!! I enjoy reading all of them!!” Carol Jean L-Z, Austin, TX
“Oh wow, Elly! How many people have been in your shoes and decided to meet their needs for emotional and financial safety, instead of their needs for integrity????” Diane Emerson, Vashon, WA
Don’t worry, your unpleasant feelings are here to stay
Unpleasant feelings are like a check-engine light. Accept them as messengers of needs.
Do you keep pushing things to the backburner?
Our landlord is coming over to walk through the house and yard to see what needs repair after the winter storm. We haven’t had visitors for a year. The house has experienced a “Covid effect”. Items are scattered within easy reach, the living spaces are clean enough...
Get moving!
Zoom-parties are fun. And it’s even better to meet in person. Schedule a coaching walk with me to gt moving, physically and mentally.
Broken Bucket
A coaching community can help you connect to your values and aspirations, achieve your goals, and live in integrity.
Who is your rescue angel?
When I arrived in Austin in 2009, I signed up for an improv class. I had been part of an amateur theatre group In the Netherlands. I played Konstanze in Mozart, Ophelia in Hamlet, and roles in many commedia dell’arte...
Break up?
It’s 5:10 pm. I’ve spent the last three hours sweeping leaves, collecting them in the compost bin, turning the bin upside down when it’s full, then mulching the leaves into the grass with the lawnmower. I would rather have been knitting, but the leaves in front of the...
Cockroach in a bookcase
A colleague who blames you for their mistake. A CEO who raises their voice at you. Team members who complain about each other. Small issues that can erode trust, understanding, collaboration. What do you do to resolve those issues before they get out of hand?
Conflict can feel like balancing on a tight rope
One front foot. Pause, maybe 1-2 seconds. A second foot. Pause, 1-2 seconds. Maybe even three. A third foot, an even longer pause. The tiny squirrel is now nine feet out on a narrow utility line, some 18 feet above the ground. He has to cross another 35 feet to get to...
Tragic Expressions of Unmet Needs
Why are you triggered when you receive someone’s tragic expression of unmet needs? Because your needs are unmet. What can you do to respond constructively? By empathizing.
Books & Publications
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Leadership Coaching
Explorations into the Being and Doing of Coaching
17 Chapters written by 17 wonderful coaches. One of them is me.
For Clients
Free Webinar “Effective Communication”
What is Nonviolent Communication?
Making Irresistible Requests
These Are Not Feelings
About Elly
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