Transform Conflict into Collaboration
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The do’s and don’ts of living with empathy, compassion, and integrity
“Thanks!!! I enjoy reading all of them!!” Carol Jean L-Z, Austin, TX
“Oh wow, Elly! How many people have been in your shoes and decided to meet their needs for emotional and financial safety, instead of their needs for integrity????” Diane Emerson, Vashon, WA
What you need to not get confused about the direction you’re taking
I am wandering around Houston airport looking for signs that I am at the right gate for my connecting flight to Amsterdam. I can’t find any. Nor anyone at the help desk. I feel confused and start to feel anxious. If I am at the wrong gate, I will miss my flight and be...
This is how hairspray in your armpit can help with your sense of community
Shared humanity and seeing that others struggle like us is the most important thing for community building.
What does a birdfeeder have to do with being a leader?
Feedback often is negative, judgmental, and pointing out your faults. It can also be observational, informative, and empowering.
“It’s okay to be white.” Really?!
Coming together won’t change your situation, but it can be so empowering and relieving to know you’re not alone.
How my toilet visit at La Palma can help you with conflict resolution
Habits are hard to break. And when they have been cultivated over the years, your body will execute those habits without your mind ever having to think about it. Driving our car is an example. Brushing our teeth. Chopping the veggies. And throwing toilet paper in the...
The one thing you can do when you have lied
What do you do if you hear yourself lying? Admitting it might be scary, but it does support your integrity and can strengthen the relationship.
The one thing you can do when you lied
“Did you see the email I sent you? I was wondering if you were back from the Netherlands?” My best friend invited me for lunch. We are enjoying a chia bowl. I had seen it. Two days ago. But I felt too discombobulated to reply after my traveling. And I didn’t want to...
Honor Culture and Conflict Coaching
On the day my neighbors move out, I hang out with the kids while they pack their car. At the end of their final check through the house, they turn off the air conditioner. A few days later, a handyman paints the kitchen cabinets and turns it back on. This makes sense,...
“Actually, this one”
Anger, blame, demands, and criticism are hard-to-hear messages. You can learn openhearted curiosity to create more connection.
Books & Publications
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Leadership Coaching
Explorations into the Being and Doing of Coaching
17 Chapters written by 17 wonderful coaches. One of them is me.
For Clients
Free Webinar “Effective Communication”
What is Nonviolent Communication?
Making Irresistible Requests
These Are Not Feelings
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