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The do’s and don’ts of living with empathy, compassion, and integrity
“Thanks!!! I enjoy reading all of them!!” Carol Jean L-Z, Austin, TX
“Oh wow, Elly! How many people have been in your shoes and decided to meet their needs for emotional and financial safety, instead of their needs for integrity????” Diane Emerson, Vashon, WA
Goodbye, beloved laptop
“Dear beloved laptop, travel companion on my trips to the Netherlands, NVC-trainings and work, Thank you so much for all the support you have given me in the last 4½ years. You have been crucial in expanding my business, keeping in touch with family and friends,...
Martin Luther King and my mission in life
This Wednesday I flew out to Atlanta to renew my passport. At first I was frustrated about the hassle, and the consumption of time and money. Then I decided to make it an adventure and see it as an unique opportunity to visit a city, its people, and its highlights. So...
When was the last time you honored your inner child?
Last Saturday I took my first hip hop class ever. I was so excited! I had been wanting to take classes for years, and always told myself I had no money, no time, no spaciousness. After moving, I decided to pick up one hobby, and hip hop was my choice. I expected to be...
Bird excursion into my head
When I lived in the Netherlands, I loved to go on bird excursions. Every Thursday in April I would get up at 5:00, leave at 5:45, and bike to the dunes in The Hague. I would gather with 15 or so other bird watchers and then go off on a bird watching expedition....
Dying at peace
Let me talk about death. Not because it is my favorite topic, but because it was why I was in the Netherlands after all. My aunt died 76. Seems a reasonable age, not too young, not too old, and yet I startle. That would only be 26 years away from where I am now. My...
What are you doing?
Have you ever asked yourself "What am I doing?", while you're doing the dishes, riding your bike, listening to a friend? And then answer truthfully? I hadn't. I had heard the question before, but I always thought it was a trick question. To test that you really,...
Tante Ria
This is a tribute to my aunt. Tante Ria. She died last Monday. Peacefully. Trusting that she would enter Heavenly Paradise, and be welcomed in the house of her Father. I am flying out today to attend her funeral. I feel a deep sense of sadness and loss. And more...
Small commitments, big successes
My new year's commitment for 2015 is simple: when I'm getting angry, I am gonna put my hand on the spot in my body, where the anger sits, and just breathe into it. Nothing more. Just connecting to my anger and bringing awareness to it, if even for just a split second....
Overwhelmed cleaning up? Follow my three tips!
Three cabinets of books. Two closets of clothes. Earth ware scattered through the kitchen. Bins full with unfinished projects. And lots and lots of stuff from your childhood, your parents. You want to clean up and you feel overwhelmed. All this stuff you stored away...
Books & Publications
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Leadership Coaching
Explorations into the Being and Doing of Coaching
17 Chapters written by 17 wonderful coaches. One of them is me.
For Clients
Free Webinar “Effective Communication”
What is Nonviolent Communication?
Making Irresistible Requests
These Are Not Feelings
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