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The do’s and don’ts of living with empathy, compassion, and integrity
“Thanks!!! I enjoy reading all of them!!” Carol Jean L-Z, Austin, TX
“Oh wow, Elly! How many people have been in your shoes and decided to meet their needs for emotional and financial safety, instead of their needs for integrity????” Diane Emerson, Vashon, WA
SXSW and Confirmation Bias
Empathy works. It always does. Also with online harassment. That’s the main message for my panel participation at SXSW (Yes, with President Obama as keynote speaker). A friend tells me that my tagline is an opinion, not a fact. It’s a moralistic judgement. He...
SXSW and sympathetic triggers
My friend is excited about his piano recital. He is anxious too. He expects around 80 attendants. Pooh. Peanuts. I have much more to be excited about. And anxious. Speaking at SXSW. Potentially 575 attendees. Probably national exposure. YouTube video. The same...
Offering my shoulders to stand on
I feel too excited to write a post. I am booked on a panel at SXSW, the biggest film and music festival in Austin. The panel is about responding with compassion to online harassment. (Thank you, David, for recommending me.) I have about 15 minutes to speak and my mind...
Standing in line is a wonderful opportunity for connection
“I choose the wrong lane. The other lane is way faster.” I hear the woman behind me in line for the airport security check sigh deeply. She clearly wants a response. The 100 people around us remain silent. She tries again “What’s wrong with this lane? We’re not moving...
Lent and proactivity
For the first time in years, I feel excited about my commitment for Lent. I don’t experience it as punishment, discipline or deficit. As I brainstormed what I wanted to do for Lent, I wondered what my intention was. Is it about creating a challenge? Forcing myself to...
Building a Life (3/3)
My work aligns with my values of loving-speech and deep listening and supports my aspiration to see our interdependence. When I look at my business as seeing our interdependence and contributing to empathy and compassion, my shyness about marketing my services melts...
Building a Life (2/3)
Don't look for big things, just do small things with great love....The smaller the thing, the greater must be our love. (Mother Teresa, "Come Be My Light, the private writings of the Saint of Calcutta", 2007) Have you ever thought about your purpose in life? How...
Building a business (1/3)
"If readers have a sincere desire to make life miserable for themselves, they might learn to compare themselves to other people." (Dan Greenburg in: Rosenberg M., Nonviolent Communication, a language of life, 2003, p. 18) Did you ever do the comparison game? It is...
Beginning Anew (3/3)
“There is a world of difference between a complaint and a criticism. A complaint only addresses the specific action (...). A criticism is more global -it adds on some negative words about your mate’s character or personality. (...) A criticism ups the ante by throwing...
Books & Publications
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Leadership Coaching
Explorations into the Being and Doing of Coaching
17 Chapters written by 17 wonderful coaches. One of them is me.
For Clients
Free Webinar “Effective Communication”
What is Nonviolent Communication?
Making Irresistible Requests
These Are Not Feelings
About Elly
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