Coaching for Nonprofit Leaders

Transform Conflict into Collaboration

Needs

We share the same universal, human needs throughout space and time. Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of Nonviolent Communication, listed 47 of them.

We have different strategies to meet these precious, beautiful needs, but underneath all those different strategies are the same 47 needs.

Understanding that everything we say and do is an attempt to meet these needs, helps us bridge conflict and work together.

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Autonomy

  • To choose one’s dreams, goals, values
  • To choose one’s plan for fulfilling one’s dreams, goals, values

Celebration

  • To celebrate the creation of life and dreams fulfilled
  • To celebrate losses: loved ones, dreams, etc. (mourning)

Integrity

  • Authenticity
  • Creativity
  • Meaning
  • Self-worth

Interdependence

  • Acceptance
  • Appreciation
  • Closeness
  • Community
  • Contribution to the enrichment of life (to exercise one’s power by giving that which contributes to life)
  • Emotional safety
  • Empathy
  • Honesty (the empowering honesty that enables us to learn from our limitations)
  • Love
  • Reassurance
  • Respect
  • Support
  • Trust
  • Understanding
  • Warmth

Play

  • Fun
  • Laughter

Spiritual Communion

  • Beauty
  • Harmony
  • Inspiration
  • Order
  • Peace

Physical Nurturance

  • Air
  • Food
  • Movement/Exercise
  • Protection from life-threatening forms of life: viruses, bacteria, insects, predatory animals
  • Rest
  • Sexual expression
  • Shelter
  • Touch
  • Water

©Marshall Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication, PuddleDancer Press, 2015