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I’m cleaning up with joy and energy

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FriendshipI like a clean and organized house.

I’m not such a big fan of cleaning myself.

I rather go for a hike, read De Groene Amsterdammer, watch a documentary. Sitting in the sun and listening to the birds is nice too. Or hanging out with family and friends, my favorite hobby.

I have many, many things I would much rather do than cleaning

Not so yesterday.

My best friend Afrien is gonna visit me. Six weeks from now. From the Netherlands. Her first trip overseas by herself, ever. It is a big thing for her.

It is a big thing for me too. She is my first Dutch friend who makes the trip, besides my parents and two sisters.

I love her dearly. We’ve been friends for more than 36 years, and we’ll be friends for the rest of our lives, I hope. We’ve known each other through graduation, lost loves, pregnancies, settling in, divorce and -now- emigration. We know each other to the core of our souls. We don’t need much explaining, we just have an excitement to share and a curiosity to listen.

Yesterday I have a completely new cleaning experience

I’m noticing with how much joy and delight I’m cleaning the guest room. Afrien is coming! I imagine how relaxed she will be having this room to herself. How well she’ll sleep, and energized she’ll wake up. How much she’ll appreciate the order and spaciousness.

I’m not cleaning a room, I’m expressing my love for her.

This is not have to, this is want to. This is not my habit energy of working hard to get acceptance, this is an excitement to contribute.

Gosh, I never expected cleaning to leave me this happy and energized.

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Author: Elly van Laar

I am a coach. I specialize in helping professionals schedule time for relationships and self-care. I have a Master's degree in Political Science, Leiden University, the Netherlands. I love meditation, walking, gardening, biking, and hanging out with family and friends.

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