Bring your life into balance

Empathy works. It always does.

There are no shoulds, only choices

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PuppyI don’t have to be in time. I don’t have to write a blog. I don’t even have to go to the retreat.

I can stay home and cuddle up in bed.

Everything I think I have to do, are just choices. Strategies to nurture a need. Because I think those choices are the best way to support those needs.

And I do have choice. I can do whatever I want. Certainly, every choice has consequences, and some choices have consequences I like better than other choices, but that has nothing to do with the fact that they still are choices.

What a relief. At this moment, I can enjoy sitting on the ground with a puppy on my lap, watching my two nanny kids working diligently on making bracelets on their rainbow loom. Collaborating, figuring out the pattern, which colors to use. So sweet.

Life is so sweet, sitting on the floor with a puppy on my lap, watching my two nanny kids taking life seriously.

I don’t need anything else. I can just stay like this.

No blog, no retreat, no should.

And in this choice, I want to go to the retreat, write my blog, and be on time.

When there is no should, have to, or must, there is just life.

“Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. “, Max Ehrmann, 1927


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Author: Elly van Laar

I am a coach. I specialize in helping mission-driven professionals bring their lives into balance. I have a Master's degree in Political Science, Leiden University, the Netherlands. I'm currently in an ICF-coaching certification program. I love meditation, walking, gardening, biking, and hanging out with family and friends.

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