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Day 3 Rejection Therapy

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Day 3 of my Rejection Therapy (Saturdays are my lazy days, and then I only do things I REALLY want, which doesn’t include any “have to’s”): I am realizing there is not really something like rejection. There are actions which I receive as rejection, but actually there is just someone saying ‘no’ to a strategy I suggested. They can not see how it serves their needs if they say ‘yes’, which leaves room for finding a solution that nurtures ALL needs.

It gets muddy, when I receive the ‘no’ as a reflection of my self-worth, that I am not worthy, that my needs don’t matter, and that there is something wrong with me asking for what I want.

The rejection therapy has already helped me to understand that if I want to live a life more fully in alignment with my values and precious needs, I have to offer my request as beautiful gifts to others, beautiful opportunities to nourish this precious life that I am representing. Funny enough, that will more likely invite a ‘yes’, which means I failed the rejection game. Yes, the game is truly set up for win/win.

For hard to hear messages and nourishing all needs see:http://www.cnvc.org/

Author: Elly van Laar

I am a coach. I specialize in helping compassionate professionals integrate self-care in their lives. I have a Master's degree in Political Science, Leiden University, the Netherlands. I love meditation, walking, gardening, biking, and hanging out with family and friends.

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